The time has come. All you people must be waiting for something juicy, real juicy. For once in my life, I'm letting it out... (bear in mind that those other posts I wrote in nz have nothing to do with this)
What is love?
Can you love someone but not having them?
Can you love someone but you're not willing to accept them into your life?
If the answer is NO, then I'm perhaps not in love. Then again, if it's yes, I'm most probably also not in love.
Why?
Because I don't know what love is. Ok, I do love my family, my friends.. That kind of love, I know what it is. Coz family always comes first!! But I'm sure you know what kind of love I'm talking about.
Maybe I'm too young to be even thinking about this. Maybe it's just puppy love. Maybe it's just a crush. No, wait... I definitely know it's not a crush. Coz if it is, I'll probably start blushing when that person is around, I'll probably have butterflies in my stomach when I see him or read those sweet text messages, I'll probably get tongue-tied the first time I see him or talk to him.
But no, he'll never make me blush, and he'll never send butterflies to my tummy despite those sweet words he can come up with. Other girls will definitely fall for it, believe me, he's a man of sweet words, too much I should say, But sorry, it doesn't work for me, I know him for too long(he only knows how to make my tummy happy and I'm sure most of you do know how!!). And he never made me tongue-tied or stuttered before.
I'll never say "I LOVE YOU" to a guy until I really mean it, until I really know what it means. Coz these days, "Those three words, Are said too much, They're not enough". But I want it to be enough. Then again, I still believe action speaks louder than words.
There are so many reasons as to why I said no. And I've been questioning myself all the time as to why I chose that answer. At first, I thought it was him. Him and his actions. The things he had done, the things I saw what he had done to others. I was angry with what he did to them. I thought that was the reason - I don't want to end up like them.
But I realized, that was just an excuse. Because everyone makes mistakes, and there's always a Forgive and Forget. Now I realized it's me. It's me all the while. The burning desire to go on with my search as I feel like I am yet to see the world. There are still so many fishes in the sea, to be caught, to let go and during the process of fishing, maybe find the best one and keep it forever.
There are certain people I just keep coming back to
He is right in front of me
I've only started searching for a year. And I didn't really start looking properly.
Would two more years be enough?
Someone please tell me.
Or should I just go with what I have now?
No, actually don't answer that, coz I won't listen to you if you say yes coz I've made up my mind :p I'm stubborn. He said I'm the best he ever had.. sweet words again? Or maybe it's true, coz he has done his search. But is he the best I ever had? I wouldn't know, coz there's this feeling in me that thinks there's so much more I haven't seen.
Maybe I want him, maybe I need him
Maybe I started to compare to someone not there
I wouldn't know whether he is the one till I have done my fair share of looking. Maybe I'll come back to him, maybe I won't. And it is a risk for me to take. Maybe when I come back to him, he's not waiting for me anymore coz......
But he won't keep on waiting for me without a doubt
Much longer for me to sort it out
But I'm willing to take that risk. He said he'll wait 10 years, that's a bit too exagerrating. But I hope when a better girl do come by, I hope he take that chance and go for her, as I do not want him to let her go just like that. I can't stop him from waiting, I've tried. Perhaps it's nice to know that someone is waiting for you, letting you feel secure, to know that you have someone to fall back to in the end. But to me, it's not. It feels like a waste of time. For someone to just wait for something that's not even there, that's not going to even happen. Perhaps there's this slight hope, tiny chance...
But what for waste your time?
I tried telling him that, but he said he still wants to wait eventhough he knows his dreams are not going to come true. Gosh!! I really wish I had the mind of a guy, go through their weird lil heads and see what they are actually thinking. Maybe it's all lies, to make me go all soft and say :"Ok la ok la.. after all u are willing to do, i'll take you la!!". If that's the case, sorry, it doesn't work for me.
Maybe I want it, maybe I need it,
Maybe it's all I'm running from
Perfection will not come
Maybe maybe maybe. I do not know.
That's why I'm asking, is two years enough for me?
Is two years enough for my prince charming to come by and quickly sweep me off my feet and take me away from this misery?
How many bad relationships do a person have to go through before they find the right one?
How many mistakes do they have to make?
And how do you know who is the right one?
I am yet to get myself into a relationship, I am yet to make my mistakes. I could have just jump into one right now and go for it.
But why no?
Maybe because I'm scared. Maybe because I'm a coward. Or maybe because I know I'm not that special afterall. Hence I am bound to be making mistakes. From driving a car to choosing that significant someone to spend the rest of my life with.
So what's wrong with making mistakes?
Well, I guess nothing is wrong with that. People do make mistakes in these kinda stuff. So why am I not taking the risk?
Answer: If I were to make a mistake, I wouldn't my first mistake to be you. In fact, I don't want you to be a mistake to me at all. You are too great of a friend to be one of the mistakes I make in my life. Too great of a friend to lose just like this.
I hope that answer is good enough. And sorry, sorry for all the rejections, sorry for hurting you, sorry for not giving you what you want, sorry for my stupid rules, sorry for my burning desires.
And thank you. Thank you for all the times we spent together this time.
Thank you for the food:
The countless dinners at Murni, tong sui, ramli burgers, sweet corn, pasar malam fried chicken, the search for Steven's corner, the overload of pasta at Williams, kajang satay but not at kajang, the hunt for sago with gula melaka, ordering 7 kids meals at TGIF for 3 big kids, roadside rojak and cendol, helping me finish one whole ipoh chicken at home, nasi pataya and a lot more that I can't remember.
Thank you for all the crazy and fun times:
Crazy gym workout, going on a competition to see who gets darker, christmas, new years, movies, thrashing me in pool, playing bball with ur cousin and ur friends, team work into steering the wheel of the car, go on a brain freeze on purpose, drinking coke and panadol to get high, washing your car, raking rambutan leaves and get bitten by mozzies, mixing slurpee flavours etc etc.
Now you all know why he is too great of a friend to lose, right? You all should probably know who I'm talking about. Especially regular readers in here. A friend that I've known for 8 years but only started talking to 6 years ago.

Mc.Hottie - a lil lie that he keeps on telling himself. Haha!!
So what now for me?
Go to NZ, open my eyes and look!! Be brave, take risks, make mistakes, it's alright to do that. Wake up!! Prince Charming might really be lost and cannot find you so you have to go to him!! But.... I'm shy. *sigh* We'll just have to wait and see. Besides, I'm still a teenager, I still have so much more time in the world. Or do I? Two more year till I finish my degree. That's why I ask is two years enough. Then again, there's another two years if I do physio. Haha!! That gives me more time. Two years is quite a lot right? A lot can happen in two years, right? Someone please tell me.
For now, I shall enjoy every moment I have. 41 days more for me to leave you and face the exciting world filled with uncertainties and surprises. I'll never forget what we shared. Thanks for letting me go for my search and thanks for understanding me and my decisions. And if one day, say in 10 years time, we do end up together, the first thing I will do is LAUGH and then it will definitely be fate if that do happens. And maybe this is just a fairytale/love story in the making. Haha!! I doubt it...:p coz fairytales only happens in dreams :)
THE END
Gosh!! sorry for the long post. At least it clears a tiny part of my life up, right? Orelse you all will still be hanging there, guessing my thoughts and hidden meanings in my posts. Hahahahaha!!!